It’s what’s keeping you financially stuck
Most of us have emotional triggers around money! It’s carried from defeating messages we’ve heard from our families and society on how we are to relate to money. How do you feel when you hear people talk about money? Does it stir up anger because you believe the system’s rigged and money is the root cause of all the problems in this world? And rich people are entitled, bastards?
Money is not just paper, and neither is it about numbers. Because money is an emotional subject. And because money means different things to different people, we all respond to it differently.
For some, money can stir up feelings of fear, insecurity, and powerlessness. For others, money is a source of power. What emotions are stirred up for you when dealing with money?
Discover Your Emotional Triggers Around Money
Our beliefs about money are what trigger our emotional response to it. Understanding your emotional reactions to money can improve your relationship with money. But for most of us, these beliefs are deeply embedded in our subconscious minds and formed since childhood.
Here are steps to uncovering your financial triggers.
Make a list of the last five financial decisions you’ve made.
These could be significant decisions like purchasing a home or small choices such as buying a new pair of shoes.
Answer these questions:
If you could go back and do it over, would you make the same financial decisions again?
What was going through your mind when you made the decision?
How did you feel when you made the decision? You might not even remember what you thought or felt — your decision might have been that quick and decisive. Nonetheless, there was a process, however subtle or subconscious it was.
What drives your spending?
· What need are you trying to meet with your resources?
· On what do you spend most of your money?
· What are most of your unplanned purchases?
· When do you make most of your unplanned purchases?
· Finally, ask yourself, “I get the most satisfaction from buying….”
· Is money tied to your self-worth? Do you believe you will be perceived in a more positive light if you had more money?
· Is shopping tied to your emotions? Retail therapy?
Decide if you want to change your feelings about money. And this will change your relationship with money. Decide what outcomes you desire most from your finances. If you’ve been feeling a sense of lack, you will want, instead, to start experiencing a feeling of abundance.
How do you do that with a pile of bills stacked in your drawer? Your beliefs and feelings change your reality and not the other way around. That may be a stretch for some, but give it a shot if you’ve never tried it.
Of course, this has to be followed by aligned action. Are you currently messy with your money? Such as not tracking what’s coming in and what’s leaving. Or are you avoiding the subject altogether -preferring to keep your head in the sand?
Confront Your Fears
Your money problems don’t disappear because you’ve ignored them or are wishing them away. Look at your cash flow over the last three to six months. Resolve you want to change things. And start now.
Question Your Beliefs
As you make these changes, believe that your reality will align with your resolve because they will! Question your beliefs. Replace them with ones that support the new relationship you desire to have about money.
It’s much like my friends who want a relationship but keep voicing, like a broken record, that there are no good people around. If you believe money is bad, there is no way you’re going to attract money.
Bringing It Together
If you’re doing all you can but not attracting the income or opportunities you desire, you could have subconscious beliefs about money that you’re not aware of. Try releasing the emotional triggers money has on you. Realize that money is merely a tool. It’s not good or bad. It’s the meaning you’ve ascribed to it. Give it a positive meaning and give yourself permission to receive it.